Epictetus, Enchiridion, 5
There are but two things, those within our control and those not within our control. We control our opinions, impressions (i.e. reactions) and our actions.
We cannot control -- by mere choice -- body, property, reputation or command.
The law of transactions isn't written in one place. It emerged when humans first emerged and evolved as humans evolved. Change is inevitable and our lives are incredibly short. Those who remember and those remembered gather only for an instant, a single moment in time. Technology has always empowered our communication from echo ravines carved in stone to tik tok, snapchat, IG and tomorrow's next and latest. Use every tool you can access and use it to connect with humans today this instant, in this moment for that is all we have in common and importantly, it is simply all we need.
Be the same person in public as in private. Speak only what is useful and beneficial. Avoid idle chatter. Refuse to participate in gossip. Direct your thinking away from self-pity, dishonesty and self-seeking motives. Relax and take it easy. Listen. Listen. Feel. Gratitude. Love.
Our lives are comprised of millions of transitions from birth through death. Some of those transitions may appear more difficult than others, take more time, surprise you, bore you, threaten you, scare you, haunt you, bedevil you. Often a first reaction is to reject the idea that there is a community of humans going through an identical transition or who have lived through it to survive and perhaps thrive. Before you can embrace such communities, you have an opportunity and perhaps a duty, obligation and responsibility to yourself to identify as member of that community. Identifying your Identity as a member of such a community may not always be natural or easy or smooth or even desired but the law of transitions cannot be ignored. We are a conduit between you're internal examination of whether you do indeed embrace that identity and supporting you in cheering you forward in your decision to do just that.
Communities exist on terra firma and through bits and bytes around the world built around a common thread. No longer is proximity a challenge or filter. From your home to your neighborhood or homeland, schools, work, businesses, religions, philosophies, abilities, capabilities, gender orientation, sexual orientation, political affiliations, health and fitness, veteran status, trauma stories, stroke survivors, engagements, weddings, divorce, parenting, smokers, drinkers, addicts, recovery warriors all. Identifying your identity for you by you first makes identifying the community most likely to provide mutual connectivity and benefits struggle free.
Once you step out, step in and identify as a member of the community, it's time to embrace it. Share it. Love it. Fast or slow doesn't matter. Your pace, your place, your presence is all up to you. You're in control of so few things, opinions, impressions and actions. Remember that and embrace the community in the process treating everything outside of your control simply none of your concern.
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